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Monday, July 18, 2005

Is it That good?

As I explained before, I often have no clue as to what I will write about until I begin typing. However, when I wrote about soul ties, I received an email from a friend regarding a relationship they were “caught up” in. In the email, this young man had typed a letter to a close friend informing her that he had to cut her off and couldn’t any longer afford to talk with her anymore. They had started out being friends and then it developed into being lovers. The amazing thing about this is that this is the same young lady that he told me about a few months prior and at that time, he was trying to end the relationship because he told me that he knew that it was an ungodly soul tie. I couldn’t help but ask myself what happened between then and now? Why was this still a current issue that had yet to be addressed? HE FELL INTO THE TRAP, as most of us do. Which means, he talked himself into believing that if he changed the parameters of the relationship, he could yet keep the attachment that had been made. TRICK! This happens every time. We meet someone and instantly, it becomes an attraction of lust because most of the time all we want is to “hit.” After we hit, for the most part, we know that this has now become a relationship “gone astray” but, we somehow believe that we can make things right! You know what I mean, we say we won’t have sex, but we can just hang out and be friends!!! YEAH RIGHT! WHO YOU THINK YOU FOOLIN’? Been there and done that, got my t-shirt and hat!

We continue to ignore the warning signs that tell us to basically GET THE HELL OUT before something happens, but we are afraid to cut the ties! Why? I’m not answering this just yet…I want you to think about this for a while because so many of us are caught up in these relationships and I’m not surprised at all. I was talking with someone just last week that asked me the question, why do we need playboy when we have BET? In today’s world, nothing is left too the imagination. You can see any and everything you want to see by just turning on the “tube.” You can hear anything you want to hear by just turning on the radio and for the most part, this is all we feed the soul. Day in and day out and then we wonder why we end up in the bed with someone after the first night! I was just talking to a close friend of mine just the other day who fell right back into the situation and it’s real hard because I see how nasty the girl is…I mean, if I can be real with you, she’s a trifling whore! She slept with two of my friends in the same day and it’s real hard for me to respect her…but I can remember when I was out there doing the same thing…so I can’t be too hard!

It’s just that with all the times I’ve had to go to the health department and as many diseases that are out here nowadays, how many times will we continue to play Russian roulette? It angers me when I see the generation coming up behind me with no regard for whatever when it comes to sex. I thought my generation was bad…we ain’t seen nothing yet, but yet we still continue to ignores signs, we continue to act as if nothing is going on and we’re in real serious trouble if we don’t expose this chemical imbalance in our soul. We have men and women who are desperately searching to feel the void in their soul and in so doing; they substitute wholeness for a RIGHT NOW orgasm. But afterwards, I have to ask you, what do you have? Is it worth the nutt? This may not be appropriate for those of you who are churchy, but for those of you who are serious about uncovering the “real deal,” I dare you to take a stab at responding. This can provide as the backdrop of an even greater issue as we continue to journey down the road called LYFE.

It’s sad when you see an entire generation who lacks identity seeking to identify themselves by the number of sexual partners they can attain. It’s sad when you see babies having babies with no concept of who they are and what their purpose is in life. It’s sad when you have people who would rather play Russian roulette by having sex without protection and run the risk of getting pregnant or, even worse, catching something that could lead to their death. I mean, what for? Is it that good? Is it worth being six-feet under?

4 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

I keep up with your posts just about every other day but man, this one hit home. I happen to have gotten caught up way too far with a "friend-turned-lover." Needless to say the situation turned ugly because I didn't heed the warning signs to get out while I was ahead. I wasn't thinking...well I was, just not the right way. Both she and I ended up getting hurt in the end. I agree with you on this one 110%. Allowing yourself to get caught up in situations like this always end up blowing up in your face. Though it is hard, you have to resist the immediate temptation if you are ever to grow and move forward. 'Nuff said.

7:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thank you for commenting! You are exactly right! Time and time again, we end up, somehow, allowing ourselves to get caught up! Most of the time, it's hormones, and sometimes, it's fear of being alone. I've got a real good friend who time and time again has told me about a certain someone that he's needed to rid himself of. This was a year ago...he did good initially, and now he's living with them. GO FIGURE! I haven't even addressed the issue with him, because he's the one that told me that God said that he needed to cut the person off...so, hey, you can only tell them, you can't make em listen to you!

It's just the question of, when is enough enough...I mean, how much of your destiny are you willing to give up for a NUTT? And if it's not sex, then how much of your destiny and purpose are you willing to forsake for that certain someone who is an imposter in your life! Now, I heard a crazy statement earlier this morning...get this..."what if they were brought into my life, so I can help them?" And my response was.."God didn't bring ______ in your life for you to screw them! He may have had a purpose in the initial meeting, but whatever the purpose was, when your penis entered the vagina, you tainted what could have been God's ultimate purpose and created a demonic soul tie!" So, like I said, I feel you in everything you said anonymous and I wish you well and will continue to pray for you as you dare to discover your purpose and destiny in the midst of the pitfalls that have been set up for you on this journey by the enemy! It's not easy but if you acknowledge the Lord, He will direct your path.

One of the ways that I was able to keep from falling was in confessing to God, in detail, my shortcomings! The more I confessed, in detail, not general, the more I became more sensitive to the deception of the enemy!

Holla back,

Pastor Rich

11:10 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Pastor Rich, this is so true! I too have some close friends who have told me time and time again about the people that God told them to break apart from, but, they end up right back with them...and they are closer now than the first time. I blame it on their laziness! They think that when God speaks, He's going to make everything nice and sappy for them to get out of their bed of affliction! Hell no, God don't play that! He never ordered them to be in the situation, so why now does He have to make everything nice. People are lazy and they want everything handed to them. This is the reason why most people never ever tap into their full potential. They are so focused on being with someone...anyone...as long as they don't have to be alone. This attitude, hinders God from opening up to them the destiny that He promised! I read your blog from a couple weeks ago when you were talking about Abraham taking Lot with him for the journey and how his blessing was hindered until he let Lot go! Well, that's why most of us are so piss poor and fucked up today! (excuse my language Pastor Rich, I'm just doing what you do...keepin it real)

8:48 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This topic could not have hit closer to home!!!! I just wanted to comment on how you could have a soul tie without having sex with someone!!!!! I was dating this guy that I liked for about six months but closer to the six month mark GOD revealed to me that he was not the one..especially in light of the fact this person wanted to have sex yet me a believer knew better but my flesh was so weak that during one heated night we almost went there( BUT DIDNT) and I ended up revealing something deeply personal about me to the man that I didnt want to share and I havent seen him since. WE talk on the phone every once in a while but its definetly not the same. And at first I felt like maybe I was supposed to meet him to lead him to Christ but Im still a baby in Christ myself and my flesh is still weak ...so Im still struggline with breaking this soul tie because I cant seem to shake this person off. Should I just tell him I cant talk to him anymore or just ignore his phone calls?? Thanks

7:02 PM  

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